I. f**king. HATE. you

And I always f**king will for what you have done. Today of all days, I have an overwhelming urge to to do what others have failed to do. If I was a weaker human being, I'd succumb to my thoughts, but alas, even then, they are way to humane and "tame" for you. As I... Continue Reading →

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Don’t ever get common…

and used by everybody. Never ever let yourself fall victim to a life that is not of your choosing. If you've taken anything of value from me, remember this; not everyone who smiles with you, is actually smiling with you; they can be smiling at you. There are a few constants in life; jealousy being... Continue Reading →

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My love hate affair with social media…

And yes there is one. I've said countless times that I'm going to quit social media, ideally Facebook and most importantly Instagram. Then I say to myself, why should I? Why should I have to do that because of some insecure women who feel like they have nothing better to do than attack me and... Continue Reading →

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Online dating; SLUR style

My experiences with online dating.....what a trip it has been

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My fear of the “S” word

Why Am I not afraid, or am I? Are you afraid? Are you afraid of the "S" word?

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Two can play that game…

Why should the game have only one player? Girl bye... life is about being real and living in the present, in the reality. So get with the program and yes, two can play that game...

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Does size ultimately matter???

When is bigger not better? Is there ever a time, or does size really matter when choosing....

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Defining yourself …

Always be prepared to constantly define yourself. As you change and your world changes, so to will everything around you. You will have new expectations of yourself, but most of all, others will have greater of you. Herein lies the pressure of your life. I used to be so scared of life that I'd fail,... Continue Reading →

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Follow Fashion Monkey is not a trend

Hey fashionnystars, Here's a bit of advice from the SLUR Queen. In life, we all have a box of crayons to work with. Some of us prefer one set of colours to the rest. Some of us are colour blind and as such can't differentiate. It's all good. The key lesson is that we are... Continue Reading →

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The wrong turn

It's ok to turn your back. Life doesn't end. Instead, you may just find the clarity which you need to define your life and your purpose. By all accounts, I'm blessed; not lucky, blessed. I have had my share of life occurrences which have tested my faith, not in God, but in mankind. Sometimes things... Continue Reading →

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Finally DEAD

I always think of you, as your only sister...with Lovd

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Did a “shamay” end in murder?

Yesterday was the hardest day yet. Since dealing with these deaths and murder I haven’t really found the time to simply crash and burn. Seeing your face plastered all over the news, social media,  responding to reporter questions, getting contacted by the media and receiving all the “I’m sorry” has left me depleted. I went... Continue Reading →

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Was he killed by the black widow…

There is something to be said about the way news travels in the small islands. I never realized how grateful I would be for that until one week ago. Over the last two years, I have heard many stories, but the one thing no one knew is the consistency in the stories and the main... Continue Reading →

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3 deaths, 1 murder….

This doesn't happen in real life. I guess, in the real life of people I know, in the real life of friends, of family. I'd never have thought that this would happen in my real life; in my life. This is the thing I live for, the types of stories that I watch, my favourite... Continue Reading →

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A letter to my “father”

Today, I lost my father and trying to write and explain my feelings helped me understand a few things.

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Who the cap fits…let her wear it!

I say, you were supposed to hold me down, but you are a clown all around. I say who, who, who??? Don't need the answer too. Cause I know, you know...that even Jesus broke bread with Judas. So, when your friends run their mouths, you just put on the various caps and say...when the cap... Continue Reading →

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Ballerinas and curls

What do ballerinas and curls have in common? Is it the twist that they do? Could it be the fact that they can both allonge? What is it that ballerinas and curls have in common? Well, it's simple - ME!!!! Today, I wore a top from H&M which was filled with dancing ballerinas, and my... Continue Reading →

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Rules to and of the S.L.U.R.

Do you understand the S.L.U.R.? Do you know the rules? Do you realize how much power, strength and uniqueness being a S.L.U.R. Queen gives you? Let's get started. I live my life by a simple motto: I'm here to be UniquelyNessa. I'm me and I am I. There's no one else who can do me... Continue Reading →

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Why I couldnt resist….

when it's good; it's good. Ever had it so good that you are bazoodied by it? You know, bazoody, the island word for being in a state of retardation when you are drunk off something? Well, ahem. I saw it and I became BAZOODIED. And by all that is holy, I wanted it. So I... Continue Reading →

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Don’t be afraid to disappoint…

Some people will only love you if you fit into their box... and I say to you, DON'T be afraid to disappoint them. Do not change to conform to anyone's idea of who you have the right to be. Be you! Be Unique! Be individual! If anyone expects you to be another you; then they... Continue Reading →

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Letting go; starting over. The reality of changes

No choice but to let go...

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I am having a LOVE AFFAIR

.......with my self – and I’m proud to admit it…. Trust me, I am. There is background to all of this. Do you remember or even know that famous quote by the great Miss Angelina Jolie? The one which goes like this: I always wanted a great love affair: something that feels big and full,... Continue Reading →

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Does your astrological sign define you?

Apparently, I'm a Capricorn through and through, even down to fashion. Yes, I am a Cappy through and through. I'm determined and destined for success and it comes through in my outfits. Work styles are my favorite because they fit in well with my need for power and they usually exude confidence. One of my... Continue Reading →

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Reflections of a dying 24 yr old

"You can float through a life created by circumstances, missing day after day, hour after hour. Or, you can fight for what you believe in and write the great story of your life. I hope you will make the right choice." I read this, with teary pride filled eyes. I am saddened that he has... Continue Reading →

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Why I fell in love with him….

Dreams can become reality...find yours

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There’s an art to throwing SHADE…

...like everything else. It's a skill and not a skill that individuals should aspire to having. And because it is an art, I believe that it is defined by certain rules. Shade throwing has been around for a long time. It's gets way more attention today because of social media. And so, because I have... Continue Reading →

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My best teacher; my last mistake; my fake friend

How do we learn lessons other than by teachings and experience? We go through life either as blankets or as sponges. We get trampled by our teachings or expand with our experiences. Either way, we go through life forever changed by our everyday experiences. One such life changing experience was my last mistake. And it... Continue Reading →

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I deserve more…

Damn right I do!!! I felt trapped by the traditions of the middle class life. Trapped in the house, trapped in the love, trapped in the life. I wanted more; I needed more. And without that more, I felt like I was withering away. What is that more which I felt I deserved?What is that... Continue Reading →

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I. AM. S.L.U.R.

"Do you have designers who are your friends?" I stared back dumb faced at the guy who posed this question. I was not confused, but lost in my early morning routine of trying to catch the elevator. I turned around with a smile and just looked at him. And that's when he said " You... Continue Reading →

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600 plus likes; what did that mean?

Did you see it? I sure did! 600 plus likes on 1 picture on Instagram. I can't explain it but I took note of it. Frankly, I am not caught up in the number of likes or followers I have on IG, or other social media outlets. What I am most concerned with, is the... Continue Reading →

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When IG/ Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat and the likes fails and fools us.

Don't let the small hype fool you; get the bills paid, live independent and be independent

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How do you determine if someone is worth it?

Find your happiness and go wherever it leads you

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The day I met Royalty ….

let the wind blow through your hair - slow down ... enjoy life... fast cars.. airplanes...love and family

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Hiding fears from the world….

Practice...like everything else will eventually make you great and the world not see your fears

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Giving Love a chance

The expectations of others were the bars I used for my own cage. Until I tasted freedom I didn't understand how liberating self confidence...self love and self acceptance can be.

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Wearing a suit even when it’s hot…

Keeping it simple and clean for the office

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Why I chose to blog

I believe that I must maintain my individuality to continue on my journey. It keeps me grounded and rooted in my belief that I'm here to live, not just exist and to make the most of all opportunities given

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I don’t believe in Karma…..but all actions do have consequences;

You just always have to be yourself, even among the evil that men live with

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Behind the glam…

totally striped down

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Saying goodbye; hello!

Can't sleep...worried...scared...unsure

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Dear Vanessa…

A letter to myself...if I were to have written it in the past. ... Impressive

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A red hat affair…..and the woman behind it

Why I started my affair.

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Deconstructing myself

There's a myth behind society...figure it out and find inner peace

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Fall Trends: Fall in love with fall

Do you have a favorite fall trend as yet? Are you ready to fall in love with FALL? I seem to have a love hate affair with Fall. I love her because of her vibrancy and intensity, yet I hate her because she signifies the beginning of the fall, the coming /going down quickly from... Continue Reading →

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Why I will not be a victim of Domestic abuse

You’ve heard it way too many times: “Oh, I didn’t know” “I didn’t think that he/she would have done that” “He/she didn’t look like that type of person” Well, tell that to the many victims who before they became victims shared the same thoughts. Not. I. I will not be a victim to any man.... Continue Reading →

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Am I a victim of Mother Nature’s Menopausal response?????

Am I a victim of Mother Nature's Menopausal response????? I've learnt that in order for me to get where I want to go and be who I am destined to be, I had to make the biggest decision of my life. And of course, in making that decision I was faced with the ultimate scare... Continue Reading →

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My Fashionnystar’s guide to dressing like a Chic Work Chick

There are many rules for dressing for the office. The key to making the right choice is all based on your clientele. To know what to wear, I say that you must first ask yourself three basic questions: What’s my business? Who am I serving? How to I feel and how does my outfit reflect... Continue Reading →

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Weirdo No. 1… and his fetishes

Make that the Sexual fetishism/ Erotic Fetishism!!!! Weirdo 1…OH my men! Men have fetishes, crazy crazy fetishes. I’m sure that women do to, but since I was only interested in dating men, my fetish experiences can only revolve around those which I came across. To each his own; I am not judgmental and neither should... Continue Reading →

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