Not even the best laid foundation...hides depression
Confessions from a dark hole
I’m a F*ucking Ray of Sunshine…
So says my shirt and I have to agree. After all, I seem to be the Queen of resurrections. I'm tired of asking why me, not to GOD, because I do not question his doings, but to my universe. It's so freaking confusing how we are programmed. On one had, there's the religious pundits who... Continue Reading →
It’s not what you think of me…
I AM ENOUGH
Dear men, let us keep our choice
#metoo. Too often times society questions and often condemns women who have chosen to, at a later stage in life, come forth and speak up about sexual abuse, inappropriate touching, and about events which happened to them, long ago. I have never been one to question these women. In fact, I have often, easily and... Continue Reading →
Friendship and Competition
Why is it so hard for friends to support freely and genuinely
Being in love with the idea of love
Is there such a thing as loving too hard? And if so, who is the loser in this situation - the person who loves too hard, or the one who is too unaware to see the gift given? This is a question which I have been asking myself lately. Is there such a thing as... Continue Reading →
Dark, dark thoughts…my reality
this is a definite must read - it's raw, it's real and its most of all 100% TRUE...
READER BE WARE
Coming out of the closet …with a leap of faith…
It's Pride week! Happy Pride to everyone of the LGBTQ Family! To all those who have chosen to come out of the closet on that leap of faith - I say kudos to you. Although I'm coming out of the closet, it is of a totally different kind. I'm officially coming out of the SMJ... Continue Reading →
Better to light one candle than to curse….
the darkness! I have to believe that. There are too many apt proverbial sayings to my life these days. And it is frightening how the darkness which surrounds me comes from the blood of my ancestors, my family, my relatives. Jealousy I've learnt is a very DANGEROUS, DANGEROUS emotion, feeling, or whatever it is quantified... Continue Reading →
You won’t forget BETRAYAL but you do recover.
There is life after an intense betrayal
The fear which paralyzes us…what is it?
There’s a light at the end of the tunnel....go toward it
I. f**king. HATE. you
And I always f**king will for what you have done. Today of all days, I have an overwhelming urge to to do what others have failed to do. If I was a weaker human being, I'd succumb to my thoughts, but alas, even then, they are way to humane and "tame" for you. As I... Continue Reading →
Don’t ever get common…
and used by everybody. Never ever let yourself fall victim to a life that is not of your choosing. If you've taken anything of value from me, remember this; not everyone who smiles with you, is actually smiling with you; they can be smiling at you. There are a few constants in life; jealousy being... Continue Reading →
My love hate affair with social media…
And yes there is one. I've said countless times that I'm going to quit social media, ideally Facebook and most importantly Instagram. Then I say to myself, why should I? Why should I have to do that because of some insecure women who feel like they have nothing better to do than attack me and... Continue Reading →
Online dating; SLUR style
My experiences with online dating.....what a trip it has been
My fear of the “S” word
Why Am I not afraid, or am I?
Are you afraid?
Are you afraid of the "S" word?
Two can play that game…
Why should the game have only one player?
Girl bye... life is about being real and living in the present, in the reality.
So get with the program and yes, two can play that game...
Does size ultimately matter???
When is bigger not better?
Is there ever a time, or does size really matter when choosing....
Defining yourself …
Always be prepared to constantly define yourself. As you change and your world changes, so to will everything around you. You will have new expectations of yourself, but most of all, others will have greater of you. Herein lies the pressure of your life. I used to be so scared of life that I'd fail,... Continue Reading →
Follow Fashion Monkey is not a trend
Hey fashionnystars, Here's a bit of advice from the SLUR Queen. In life, we all have a box of crayons to work with. Some of us prefer one set of colours to the rest. Some of us are colour blind and as such can't differentiate. It's all good. The key lesson is that we are... Continue Reading →
The wrong turn
It's ok to turn your back. Life doesn't end. Instead, you may just find the clarity which you need to define your life and your purpose. By all accounts, I'm blessed; not lucky, blessed. I have had my share of life occurrences which have tested my faith, not in God, but in mankind. Sometimes things... Continue Reading →
Finally DEAD
I always think of you, as your only sister...with Lovd
Did a “shamay” end in murder?
Yesterday was the hardest day yet. Since dealing with these deaths and murder I haven’t really found the time to simply crash and burn. Seeing your face plastered all over the news, social media, responding to reporter questions, getting contacted by the media and receiving all the “I’m sorry” has left me depleted. I went... Continue Reading →
Was he killed by the black widow…
There is something to be said about the way news travels in the small islands. I never realized how grateful I would be for that until one week ago. Over the last two years, I have heard many stories, but the one thing no one knew is the consistency in the stories and the main... Continue Reading →
3 deaths, 1 murder….
This doesn't happen in real life. I guess, in the real life of people I know, in the real life of friends, of family. I'd never have thought that this would happen in my real life; in my life. This is the thing I live for, the types of stories that I watch, my favourite... Continue Reading →
A letter to my “father”
Today, I lost my father and trying to write and explain my feelings helped me understand a few things.
Who the cap fits…let her wear it!
I say, you were supposed to hold me down, but you are a clown all around. I say who, who, who??? Don't need the answer too. Cause I know, you know...that even Jesus broke bread with Judas. So, when your friends run their mouths, you just put on the various caps and say...when the cap... Continue Reading →
Ballerinas and curls
What do ballerinas and curls have in common? Is it the twist that they do? Could it be the fact that they can both allonge? What is it that ballerinas and curls have in common? Well, it's simple - ME!!!! Today, I wore a top from H&M which was filled with dancing ballerinas, and my... Continue Reading →
Rules to and of the S.L.U.R.
Do you understand the S.L.U.R.? Do you know the rules? Do you realize how much power, strength and uniqueness being a S.L.U.R. Queen gives you? Let's get started. I live my life by a simple motto: I'm here to be UniquelyNessa. I'm me and I am I. There's no one else who can do me... Continue Reading →
Why I couldnt resist….
when it's good; it's good. Ever had it so good that you are bazoodied by it? You know, bazoody, the island word for being in a state of retardation when you are drunk off something? Well, ahem. I saw it and I became BAZOODIED. And by all that is holy, I wanted it. So I... Continue Reading →
Don’t be afraid to disappoint…
Some people will only love you if you fit into their box... and I say to you, DON'T be afraid to disappoint them. Do not change to conform to anyone's idea of who you have the right to be. Be you! Be Unique! Be individual! If anyone expects you to be another you; then they... Continue Reading →
Letting go; starting over. The reality of changes
No choice but to let go...
Does your astrological sign define you?
Apparently, I'm a Capricorn through and through, even down to fashion. Yes, I am a Cappy through and through. I'm determined and destined for success and it comes through in my outfits. Work styles are my favorite because they fit in well with my need for power and they usually exude confidence. One of my... Continue Reading →
Reflections of a dying 24 yr old
"You can float through a life created by circumstances, missing day after day, hour after hour. Or, you can fight for what you believe in and write the great story of your life. I hope you will make the right choice." I read this, with teary pride filled eyes. I am saddened that he has... Continue Reading →
Why I fell in love with him….
Dreams can become reality...find yours
There’s an art to throwing SHADE…
...like everything else. It's a skill and not a skill that individuals should aspire to having. And because it is an art, I believe that it is defined by certain rules. Shade throwing has been around for a long time. It's gets way more attention today because of social media. And so, because I have... Continue Reading →
My best teacher; my last mistake; my fake friend
How do we learn lessons other than by teachings and experience? We go through life either as blankets or as sponges. We get trampled by our teachings or expand with our experiences. Either way, we go through life forever changed by our everyday experiences. One such life changing experience was my last mistake. And it... Continue Reading →
I deserve more…
Damn right I do!!! I felt trapped by the traditions of the middle class life. Trapped in the house, trapped in the love, trapped in the life. I wanted more; I needed more. And without that more, I felt like I was withering away. What is that more which I felt I deserved?What is that... Continue Reading →
I. AM. S.L.U.R.
"Do you have designers who are your friends?" I stared back dumb faced at the guy who posed this question. I was not confused, but lost in my early morning routine of trying to catch the elevator. I turned around with a smile and just looked at him. And that's when he said " You... Continue Reading →
600 plus likes; what did that mean?
Did you see it? I sure did! 600 plus likes on 1 picture on Instagram. I can't explain it but I took note of it. Frankly, I am not caught up in the number of likes or followers I have on IG, or other social media outlets. What I am most concerned with, is the... Continue Reading →
When IG/ Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat and the likes fails and fools us.
Don't let the small hype fool you; get the bills paid, live independent and be independent
How do you determine if someone is worth it?
Find your happiness and go wherever it leads you
The day I met Royalty ….
let the wind blow through your hair - slow down ... enjoy life... fast cars.. airplanes...love and family
Hiding fears from the world….
Practice...like everything else will eventually make you great and the world not see your fears
Giving Love a chance
The expectations of others were the bars I used for my own cage.
Until I tasted freedom I didn't understand how liberating self confidence...self love and self acceptance can be.
Wearing a suit even when it’s hot…
Keeping it simple and clean for the office
Why I chose to blog
I believe that I must maintain my individuality to continue on my journey. It keeps me grounded and rooted in my belief that I'm here to live, not just exist and to make the most of all opportunities given
I don’t believe in Karma…..but all actions do have consequences;
You just always have to be yourself, even among the evil that men live with
Behind the glam…
totally striped down
Dark, dark thoughts…my reality
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The power of a single mother
If you want to know the power of a single mother, look no further than Doria Ragland, mother to Megan Markle, the newly titled Duchess of Sussex. She became the unintended hero to many single moms world wide who watched her, sitting alone, opposite the Queen, as a Queen in her own right. A black... Continue Reading →
