Why I will not be a victim of Domestic abuse

You’ve heard it way too many times:

“Oh, I didn’t know”

“I didn’t think that he/she would have done that”

“He/she didn’t look like that type of person”

Well, tell that to the many victims who before they became victims shared the same thoughts.

Not. I.

I will not be a victim to any man. I will not be a victim of domestic abuse. I will not be a statistic. I will not be put in the position to repeat these words.

Unless you are in the situation, who are you to judge and say anything? Who are you to question? Who are you to doubt?

I’ll say this over and over and over again …. There are always 3 sides to any story – your side, my side and the reality…. in between. When in a heated situation everyone interprets things differently … what I may construe as a threat you may not intend as one. Intention is of no consequence to me. My safety is. My security is. My understanding is. MY LIFE IS.

I am not going to wait to be injured or dead, to figure out whether you were serious or not.

I will not be a victim of domestic abuse. I refuse to be, I’ll stand up for me and the many other women who were the results of:

“Oh, I didn’t know”

“I didn’t think that he/she would have done that”

“He/she didn’t look like that type of person”

Everyone is a potential killer – EVERYONE. And until you’ve been in a situation where you do not know the other person, nor recognise the other person, you may never understand those words.

I will not be a victim of domestic abuse; I REFUSE TO BE.

Unless you’ve experienced The Tension Building (or “Walking on Eggshells”) stage you wouldn’t comprehend.

Should I anticipate the grand finale of the Explosive Incident stage? I think not.

 

For all women who are threatened, feel threatened or experience some kind of fear at the hands of a man, I say to you – DO NOT WAIT FOR THIS STAGE. Do not become a victim in waiting.

Do not care what family or friends think. There is absolutely no shame is protecting yourself or standing up for yourself. There’s only shame in the people who pretend to care and say:

“Oh, I didn’t know”

“I didn’t think that he/she would have done that”

“He/she didn’t look like that type of person”

Don’t be that victim in waiting, DON’T.


Lesson 9: Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life. Define yourself

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