If you want to know the power of a single mother, look no further than Doria Ragland, mother to Megan Markle, the newly titled Duchess of Sussex. She became the unintended hero to many single moms world wide who watched her, sitting alone, opposite the Queen, as a Queen in her own right.
A black woman, with dreadlocks and a nose ring proudly sat in a pew, alone, not lonely, not without options but by choice. She represented with dignity that as a woman, she raised a daughter single handedly, and that daughter, no matter what obstacles she faced, went on to marry a Prince of England. And that gives some sense of pride that as a single mother Ms. Ragland did well, very well.
The stigma of single moms took a hit on May 19, 2018 when the world watched as she proudly sat while fighting back tears, with a dignity that many may not have been able to exude. This woman regally walked in and sat with her head held high while the world looked on. It has been said that over 2 billion people watched the wedding ceremony and Ms Ragland, a woman who’s had to face many of the mother daughter tribulations, faced that 2 billion with unfettered pride.
Ms. Ragland showed the world what it has been like for Megan and her throughout their relationship. It has been the two of them for a long time. She’s been the support through it all. The one present during the important moments in Megan’s life – parent teacher meetings, rehearsals, graduations, proms, marriages, and oh, how great a support that has been!
So for a brief moment in time, Ms Ragland dispensed the stereotype of a single mom, and what a moment it was.
But as life continues and society forgets that strength displayed on that day, I can only hope that many of the women who are parenting alone can look back on this moment and know that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. There will be a moment in their lives when they can break lose of the single mom stigma and society will have no choice but to accept it.
Let’s hope that these moments come sooner rather than later.