Oh may! SLUR is SLURing in isolation. You way wonder: Is there even such a thing? Well dear reader, there sure is. SLUR and isolation go hand in hand. Unlike many, I am doing the usual things which I've always done - social distancing and self isolation. I AM ALWAYS HOME; that is once work... Continue Reading →
Too! Yes it does! Today, the WHO declared the Coronavirus or Covid-19 as we call it, a pandemic! Prior to that, people were already anxious and fearful. And today became the day I joined them. Like me, you may have heard about the grocery store fights over hand sanitizers and toilet paper. Yes, toilet paper.... Continue Reading →
It's HERE - Style.Like.U.R.rich.every.day!Finally, I've taken that official unofficial step of providing to you my style on a budget. It is definitely not for everyone - we all can't afford designer duds, our styles are different, but many of us are in the same tax bracket of affordability. You truly do not have to spend... Continue Reading →
2020 - a year meant for change and for breaking routines. I did that. I started my year, almost 13 years later, differently. I up and quitted my job. I gave up security, stability and routine for uncertainty, the unknown, and most of all; for change. I chose change. If someone had said to me... Continue Reading →
Is it a truth universally known that women do not value nor appreciate good men? And if this is a truth, what pray tell could be the reason behind that truth? Do good men really exists? I mean, I'm sure they do....but do they exist so abundantly that men are justified in saying that women... Continue Reading →
So says my shirt and I have to agree. After all, I seem to be the Queen of resurrections. I'm tired of asking why me, not to GOD, because I do not question his doings, but to my universe. It's so freaking confusing how we are programmed. On one had, there's the religious pundits who... Continue Reading →
#metoo. Too often times society questions and often condemns women who have chosen to, at a later stage in life, come forth and speak up about sexual abuse, inappropriate touching, and about events which happened to them, long ago. I have never been one to question these women. In fact, I have often, easily and... Continue Reading →
Why is it so hard for friends to support freely and genuinely
Is there such a thing as loving too hard? And if so, who is the loser in this situation - the person who loves too hard, or the one who is too unaware to see the gift given? This is a question which I have been asking myself lately. Is there such a thing as... Continue Reading →
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It's Pride week! Happy Pride to everyone of the LGBTQ Family! To all those who have chosen to come out of the closet on that leap of faith - I say kudos to you. Although I'm coming out of the closet, it is of a totally different kind. I'm officially coming out of the SMJ... Continue Reading →
the darkness! I have to believe that. There are too many apt proverbial sayings to my life these days. And it is frightening how the darkness which surrounds me comes from the blood of my ancestors, my family, my relatives. Jealousy I've learnt is a very DANGEROUS, DANGEROUS emotion, feeling, or whatever it is quantified... Continue Reading →
And I always f**king will for what you have done. Today of all days, I have an overwhelming urge to to do what others have failed to do. If I was a weaker human being, I'd succumb to my thoughts, but alas, even then, they are way to humane and "tame" for you. As I... Continue Reading →
and used by everybody. Never ever let yourself fall victim to a life that is not of your choosing. If you've taken anything of value from me, remember this; not everyone who smiles with you, is actually smiling with you; they can be smiling at you. There are a few constants in life; jealousy being... Continue Reading →
And yes there is one. I've said countless times that I'm going to quit social media, ideally Facebook and most importantly Instagram. Then I say to myself, why should I? Why should I have to do that because of some insecure women who feel like they have nothing better to do than attack me and... Continue Reading →
Why should the game have only one player?
Girl bye... life is about being real and living in the present, in the reality.
So get with the program and yes, two can play that game...
When is bigger not better?
Is there ever a time, or does size really matter when choosing....
Always be prepared to constantly define yourself. As you change and your world changes, so to will everything around you. You will have new expectations of yourself, but most of all, others will have greater of you. Herein lies the pressure of your life. I used to be so scared of life that I'd fail,... Continue Reading →
Hey fashionnystars, Here's a bit of advice from the SLUR Queen. In life, we all have a box of crayons to work with. Some of us prefer one set of colours to the rest. Some of us are colour blind and as such can't differentiate. It's all good. The key lesson is that we are... Continue Reading →
It's ok to turn your back. Life doesn't end. Instead, you may just find the clarity which you need to define your life and your purpose. By all accounts, I'm blessed; not lucky, blessed. I have had my share of life occurrences which have tested my faith, not in God, but in mankind. Sometimes things... Continue Reading →
Yesterday was the hardest day yet. Since dealing with these deaths and murder I haven’t really found the time to simply crash and burn. Seeing your face plastered all over the news, social media, responding to reporter questions, getting contacted by the media and receiving all the “I’m sorry” has left me depleted. I went... Continue Reading →
There is something to be said about the way news travels in the small islands. I never realized how grateful I would be for that until one week ago. Over the last two years, I have heard many stories, but the one thing no one knew is the consistency in the stories and the main... Continue Reading →
This doesn't happen in real life. I guess, in the real life of people I know, in the real life of friends, of family. I'd never have thought that this would happen in my real life; in my life. This is the thing I live for, the types of stories that I watch, my favourite... Continue Reading →
Today, I lost my father and trying to write and explain my feelings helped me understand a few things.
I say, you were supposed to hold me down, but you are a clown all around. I say who, who, who??? Don't need the answer too. Cause I know, you know...that even Jesus broke bread with Judas. So, when your friends run their mouths, you just put on the various caps and say...when the cap... Continue Reading →
What do ballerinas and curls have in common? Is it the twist that they do? Could it be the fact that they can both allonge? What is it that ballerinas and curls have in common? Well, it's simple - ME!!!! Today, I wore a top from H&M which was filled with dancing ballerinas, and my... Continue Reading →
Do you understand the S.L.U.R.? Do you know the rules? Do you realize how much power, strength and uniqueness being a S.L.U.R. Queen gives you? Let's get started. I live my life by a simple motto: I'm here to be UniquelyNessa. I'm me and I am I. There's no one else who can do me... Continue Reading →
when it's good; it's good. Ever had it so good that you are bazoodied by it? You know, bazoody, the island word for being in a state of retardation when you are drunk off something? Well, ahem. I saw it and I became BAZOODIED. And by all that is holy, I wanted it. So I... Continue Reading →
Some people will only love you if you fit into their box... and I say to you, DON'T be afraid to disappoint them. Do not change to conform to anyone's idea of who you have the right to be. Be you! Be Unique! Be individual! If anyone expects you to be another you; then they... Continue Reading →
Apparently, I'm a Capricorn through and through, even down to fashion. Yes, I am a Cappy through and through. I'm determined and destined for success and it comes through in my outfits. Work styles are my favorite because they fit in well with my need for power and they usually exude confidence. One of my... Continue Reading →
"You can float through a life created by circumstances, missing day after day, hour after hour. Or, you can fight for what you believe in and write the great story of your life. I hope you will make the right choice." I read this, with teary pride filled eyes. I am saddened that he has... Continue Reading →
...like everything else. It's a skill and not a skill that individuals should aspire to having. And because it is an art, I believe that it is defined by certain rules. Shade throwing has been around for a long time. It's gets way more attention today because of social media. And so, because I have... Continue Reading →
How do we learn lessons other than by teachings and experience? We go through life either as blankets or as sponges. We get trampled by our teachings or expand with our experiences. Either way, we go through life forever changed by our everyday experiences. One such life changing experience was my last mistake. And it... Continue Reading →
Damn right I do!!! I felt trapped by the traditions of the middle class life. Trapped in the house, trapped in the love, trapped in the life. I wanted more; I needed more. And without that more, I felt like I was withering away. What is that more which I felt I deserved?What is that... Continue Reading →
"Do you have designers who are your friends?" I stared back dumb faced at the guy who posed this question. I was not confused, but lost in my early morning routine of trying to catch the elevator. I turned around with a smile and just looked at him. And that's when he said " You... Continue Reading →
Did you see it? I sure did! 600 plus likes on 1 picture on Instagram. I can't explain it but I took note of it. Frankly, I am not caught up in the number of likes or followers I have on IG, or other social media outlets. What I am most concerned with, is the... Continue Reading →
Don't let the small hype fool you; get the bills paid, live independent and be independent
let the wind blow through your hair - slow down ... enjoy life... fast cars.. airplanes...love and family
Practice...like everything else will eventually make you great and the world not see your fears
What do Versace, blonde hair, and a black girl have in common? Definitely not the same tax bracket, but just a simple love for gold and flair. That was me today, in my dark Versace eyewear, my blonde wig and my black girl attitude. I am a sucker for simplicity and this outfit spoke to... Continue Reading →
The one your friends won’t tell you about! How scared are you that you’re going to catch that dreaded Coronavirus? Extremely ScaredSomewhat ScaredJust a Little However you rate it measure your degree of being scared, rest assured that the virus is not out to get you. The chances of contracting the virus 🦠 is limited... Continue Reading →